Modest doesn't necessarily mean "small." It just means "not particularly large."
As a point of fact,
spiral galaxies range from 1e9 solar masses to 1e12 solar masses, with typical ones being 1e11 solar masses. Dimensions range from a diameter of 5 kiloparsecs to a diameter of 100 kiloparsecs.
With a bit of analysis, we can get a regression going.
5 kpc, 1e9 solar masses
100 kpc, 1e12 solar masses.
Take the logs of everything:
log(5), 9
2, 12
The slope of this line is: 3/(2 - log(5))
if y = log(galaxy mass in solar masses), and x = log(galaxy diameter in kiloparsecs),
y = (3/(2 - log(5)))x + b
Plug numbers in and solve for b:
12 = (3/(2 - log(5)))(2) + b
12 = (6/(2 - log(5))) + b
b = 12 - (6/(2 - log(5)))
So:
y = (3/(2 - log(5)))x + 12 - (6/(2 - log(5)))
When y = 11, x = 1.566323.
10^1.566323 = 36.8403 kiloparsecs.
So really, all we can say about the Star Wars galaxy is that it's 37 kiloparsecs or less in diameter. That's almost exactly 120,000 light years. 120,000 light years is an average sized galaxy. Whether "modest" is consistent with "average" in context is debatable, but "modest" certainly doesn't mean "particularly small."
If I had to guess, I'd say that the Star Wars galaxy is "below average," but that's more than consistent with a diameter of, say, 22 kiloparsecs, or 73,000 light years.
At any rate, trying to compress the Star Wars galaxy beyond 16,000 light years without canon evidence is completely unjustified. If we can't get a size from the Disney-canon map, we really have no reason to think that the Galaxy Far Far Away is any different in size from our own.